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Quandry for the LJ World:
Virginity...
How sacred is virginity? In giving it to someone do you become irrevocably tied to the person involved? Is there ever a "right" person to give your virginity to? Does the person you give your virginity to have a responsibility to ensure they are the "right" person? How much responsibility does the person receiving the virginity have to make sure the person is "ready" if they say they are?
Virginity...
How sacred is virginity? In giving it to someone do you become irrevocably tied to the person involved? Is there ever a "right" person to give your virginity to? Does the person you give your virginity to have a responsibility to ensure they are the "right" person? How much responsibility does the person receiving the virginity have to make sure the person is "ready" if they say they are?
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Sex is good.
Date: 2004-10-25 07:02 am (UTC)From:Virginity is not a gift, it is a state of mind. Virginity is healthy to a point (probably somewhere between 16 and 22), and for some people comfortable after that. Somewhere along the way, virginity changes from being comfortable to being scared, then lonely and eventually isolating. Just imagine the plight of a fifty year old virgin.
The "right" person to start sexual exploration with is any person the virgin trusts and lusts after. That person can ensure that (s)he is the right person by honoring that trust and allowing the virgin to move at a pace (s)he is comfortable with and respecting the emotions that are always involved with sex but the first-timer might not necessarily be expecting. As for "ready," the standards on that do not change at any age or level of sexual experience. As long as the sex is safe, sane, and consensual the individuals involved are ready. Anything else will lead to serious regrets.
As for "how sacred is virginity," I say it is not. Sex is good. Sex is natural and healthy. Anyone who can't handle that is likely to be miserable regardless of when they started or with whom.