Doctor Rant

[eiblyn]

So I really didn't want to have a baby in a hospital. Ever. Things just haven't worked out well with that. I've tried doing the next best thing. I have a midwife and a birth plan. She's very supportive.

Today I had an appointment but she was out on leave for the week. I had to see one of the doctors in the clinic instead. I hate him. *sighs* Ok so it isn't really hate. But I was turning in my birth plan today and he decided to go over it with me. He was very condescending the whole time. He spent the whole appointment standing over me. He basically told me that "birth plans are nice but nature has a mind of its own and at that point no one is in control, the doctor just has to fix things." I thought I might scream and throw things.

Yes, this is my first child. But it is very ok for me to have ideals of how I want birth to go. When I say I don't want an epidural, don't reassure me that "some" first time moms can handle the pain. And certainly don't make it sound like I'm a weirdo for that. When I say I don't want my child to have the Vit. K shot and I tell you why, don't try and coerce me into it by saying you'll have to "check the pediatrics department's policy" on children who turn down the shot. And don't roll your eyes when I say that I don't think anti-biotics are conducive to starting a healthy immune system, so I don't want the eye gel. What don't you understand about YOU CAN'T DO THINGS TO MY CHILD UNLESS I CONSENT!?!?! And he kept insisting that once I go into active labor, I'm going to want to stay in the bed hooked up to the monitors. Except I'm not. He kept saying that latent labor is when I'll want my birth ball and that I'm not "going to care" about getting in a hot water shower in active labor.

*sighs* I sincerely hope this doctor is not on when I go into labor. Doctors with attitudes like this are the reason that my birth animal is a bear. I'm definitely going to have to roar if these are the attitudes I'm facing!

Comments

[goldfish42.livejournal.com]

Good for you, roar away! (Me: no pain killers (no mind numbers,) nice hot bath, my OWN DAMN BATHROBE instead of the stupid hospital gown, walking around, rarely in the bed and when I was my husband was in it with me, no monitors even in the room (I told them to keep them out,) no Vit. K shot and no eye goop (and yet, somehow, a healthy kid,) no manhandling of my newborn, nursing in the tub before they cut the cord, and no frikin' bath for either of us! Tell the idiotic doctors that humanity got this far withotu them.)

[eiblyn.livejournal.com]

It is good to hear that other people are just as stubborn as me about this sort of stuff. I was the only one in my lamaze class who was seriously like, "Ummm. No. No epidural. No drugs." Everyone else seemed to be taking the class so they could say they had taken it. And ya know, maybe I will change my mind, but I'm certainly not going to go into this assuming I will have problems with the pain and planning it all that way.

*sighs* He also told me that not only is the birthing tub broken, they aren't going to bother fixing it as they are shutting down the OB section of the hospital permanently in a month. That just blows.