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supurrkitten
Aug. 5th, 2004 10:51 amNOTE: I originally wrote this in response to a question that ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
supurrkitten asked in her LJ but then I decided I wanted it to have a post of it's own in my LJ so here it is.
It has been my experience that everyone is a victim of someone. In our society we are taught that the little pains and traumas are those we are supposed to suck up. We aren't supposed to dwell on the things that cause us pain because then we would appear weak. And of course, appearing weak will lead to more pain because violence and abuse only happens to those of us who are weak right? Everyone I know has had some sort of abuse/violence happen in their lives but most of us are taught that unless it's worse than everyone else's it doesn't matter...basically it doesn't matter if it hurt us. It only matters if others judge it to deserve sympathy. And that, my friends, is utter bullshit. Abuse and violence are things that you may spend your whole life trying to deal with or only twenty minutes...but it's still abuse and violence. I really think that if we lived in a world where pain was validated, regardless of how small it might seem to those not experiencing it, then maybe there wouldn't be so much pain.
supurrkitten asked in her LJ but then I decided I wanted it to have a post of it's own in my LJ so here it is.It has been my experience that everyone is a victim of someone. In our society we are taught that the little pains and traumas are those we are supposed to suck up. We aren't supposed to dwell on the things that cause us pain because then we would appear weak. And of course, appearing weak will lead to more pain because violence and abuse only happens to those of us who are weak right? Everyone I know has had some sort of abuse/violence happen in their lives but most of us are taught that unless it's worse than everyone else's it doesn't matter...basically it doesn't matter if it hurt us. It only matters if others judge it to deserve sympathy. And that, my friends, is utter bullshit. Abuse and violence are things that you may spend your whole life trying to deal with or only twenty minutes...but it's still abuse and violence. I really think that if we lived in a world where pain was validated, regardless of how small it might seem to those not experiencing it, then maybe there wouldn't be so much pain.
